Sunday, November 27, 2016

Single and Ready to Mingle

The title might shock everyone who knows me. To put their hearts at ease: I am NOT single. This post goes beyond my relationship and takes a look at the role single friends play in anyone's life. Of course, different people have different experiences. But I found myself thinking the other day, Do single friends affect the lives of their friends in relationships and other single friends? Are they a reliable source of relationship advice? How much is too much when it comes to what you share to your single friends about your current relationship?

These may be hard questions, especially when you have such an amazing bond between your friends, but we're all human- shit happens. I for one like to prepare for the worst and have hope for the best. And there have been countless times where women have destroyed each other over a man and for not meeting each others' standards (more on this topic below).

This post does focus on females but I will touch base with what I have observed from male friendships. Let's get to it.

First question: Do single friends negatively/positively affect the lives of their friends in relationships and other single friends?
Yes- but that's not because of their current marital status. People are in our lives for so many reasons. In short, some are lessons and some are blessings. We cannot predict who will be the blessing and the lesson in our lives. I for one, being in a relationship, choose not to be out every Saturday for Pickleback Shots (Yasss! Please drink responsibly). Some of my friends, whether single or not, choose to live a different lifestyle than I and that's OK. We accept each other as we are. What's important is remembering who you are and staying true to yourself, no matter who you surround yourself with.

Are they a reliable source of relationship advice? 
Friends come from all walks of life. We either accept them for who they are or we don't (in which case they're not really friends, but just acquaintances). If you are reaching out to a friend for relationship advice, why does it matter if they are single? Their reason for being single may not be that they were poor partners and they have insight others in relationships may miss (the ole "Love is blind" quote). I admit, I have been biased at times but I soon realize that at the end of the day it's my decision to make, no matter what advice was given. And if you're asking a female friend, the answer may differ than when you ask a male friend. Again, it's all about their perspective and whether or not you feel the advice is solid for your situation.

How much is too much when it comes to what you share to your single friends about your current relationship?
There is a girl code, just like there is a guy code. And guess what- as different as men and women are, the codes are surprisingly similar. Case in point, Guy Code: "Bros before hoes"; Girl Code: "Friends' current or ex boyfriends are off limits." Some people feel as though sharing information to their single friends about their significant other will add fuel to a fir: aka that their single friend will steal their partner. News flash: Life happens. Friends of friends fall in love. We really can't help that. It may be the most gust wrenching feeling to know an ex is dating a friend or to find out a current friend is trying to get with your man but this shit happens. It's not just in telenovelas. What I say is, trust in yourself and your gut. Not everything needs to be said. Leave mystery. And try to surround yourself with people with your like mindset. You know, the people who aren't  "Shneaky shnorman shnealers." Know your partner, too, and trust that he wouldn't be so low as to do that to you. And if your single friend and boyfriend have a fling? Well honey, go Beyonce on them.

Stay classy, friends.


Monday, November 21, 2016

AMAS 2016

So are we officially kicking off red carpet season with AMAs? Why not? Especially since there were some escandalous outfits. Some looked like they had just rolled out of bed (Taraji P. Henson) and others were giving Angelina's leg a run for its money (Chrissy Teigen). There was a LOT of not leaving much to the imagination but it is a less formal red carpet, where fun is encouraged... but in the words of Carolina Herrera, who I've had the pleasure of hearing speak recently (and get a signed autograph of her Carolina Herrera: 35 Years of Fashion), "The nakedness has got to stop."

Check out my faves on the red 'pet below:


Tuesday, October 11, 2016

What now? (Rihanna Voice)

I started typing a post on fashion being intimidating but I realized this morning that it's not just one sector of life that is- adulthood in general is a series of nail biting, stomach aching, hair pulling episodes. Do I have anxiety? Probably. Or I am most likely just being my Capricorn self.

These thoughts come to me after getting not-so-great news at my current position. It was a low blow that I was not ready to hear. However, it also put things into perspective. What now, Marinel? What are you going to do now? How are you going to do it?

I read and hear (SoundCloud, Ted Talks) of people's stories, stories that tell how they became successful. Many of them start with "I had no idea what I was doing." Others go "One day, I just quit my job, moved across the country and demanded attention for my product/service." 

Both scenarios scare the shit out of me. 

How can I, a new tenant who now pays more than just a cell phone bill, up and quit my job and go out into the unknown? Especially when I have no idea what it is that I want to do yet. Hi. I'm Marinel. 25 years old and I still don't know what I want to do with my life. All I know is, I like to write, sketch, paint and I freelance as a stylist and event planner (translation: I help my family pick out outfits and decorate for their birthdays. For free.) If you have the mental capacity to handle being jobless when bills are duet, kudos to you my friend. 

Deep breaths.

They (people) say it all works out in the end. Well, I'm trying to change that saying. I want it to work out now, while I'm still young-ish. While I still have collagen in my face and bounce in my derriere. (Don't mind me- just trying to make light out of a serious conversation).  

One day, (PLEASE God), I'll look back at these types of posts and be proud of the woman I have become. Don't get me wrong: I am proud of myself now. But there is even more of a sense of pride when you can successfully become everything you've wanted to be. Even if you do some things better than others. 

Let your struggle be your story, your craft be your voice and your fear your motivation. 



Thursday, September 22, 2016

Hispanic Heritage Month!

And if you couldn't guess it, I'm from the right-hand side of the island of Hispaniola. Yes- I'm a proud Dominicana!
I eat my mangu con los tres golpes and chimis, I love frozen chinola juice and I love my men tall, caramel and fuertes. ;) (Disclaimer: Happily taken by a hottie that fits that description.)

From Sept.-Oct., we celebrate ALL Hispanics. Whether you hail from Spain, the Caribbean, Central/South America, donde seas, donde quieras que vivas, raise your glasses of tequila (or Black Label or cups of Cuban coffee) and toast to being Latinos!

In honor of this month, I wanted to share 5 beauty tips from my ageless momma (she was "28" years old for three years in a row lol):

1. Get up and get moving. Even if it's chores around the house (her preferred choice of workout). 

2. Drink lots of water and don't eat past 7PM. If you do, grab a yogurt or fruit and drink a(nother) glass of water. 

3. To combat acne, every morning, every night wash your face with soap. At night apply lime juice to face before bed. (She would make us scrub a quarter slice of the lime to our face, for a little exfoliating action).

4. Home cooked is ALWAYS better than take out. And don't forget to floss!

5. This is one she is notorious for: STAY OUT OF THE SUN (as much as possible). She loves the outdoors but you'll never catch her without a hat and sunglasses- and TONS sunscreen. 

Share your beauty tips from your momma. Stay tuned for more tips, tricks and advice from my massive (& crazy) Hispanic family.


No importa lo lejos que viajes, siempre recuerda tus raĆ­ces. 

Monday, September 19, 2016

Emmy's 2016

Award season kicked off last night with the Emmy's and boy was it something. The show itself was rushed (poor Aziz Ansari didn't even get to do his acceptance speech), but I loved Jimmy Kimmel's bit with Matt Damon ("Hey Jimmy: tell your mom I like them apples.") It was really LOL funny. One thing I will say is: Leave Maggie Smith alone! Beloved Professor McGonagall clearly has better things to do, wherever she may be, than to go prance around a red carpet-- where E! is STILL asking women "How do you balance it all?" (UGH!)-- and to sit their and listen to jokes that quite frankly, were not that funny (Kit and Andy: I'm still wondering, What??).

Anyhow, the stars stunned on the red carpet. So much so that it was difficult choosing my favorite picks.























Looking forward to the next award shows.


Disclaimer: Images are not mine. From & Getty Images

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Knock, Knock

Hello?! Do you know what time of year it is?!

No, this isn't a corny "Knock, knock" joke. It's freaking fashion week! So get your suede chokers, off the shoulder frocks and metallic booties 'cuz it's going to be a wild one!

Don't know when the shows are happening? Click aqui-- Fashion Week Schedule-- for the full calendar of MAJOR shows and events.

Yearning for fashion tonight? Check out Tom Ford's SS17 show-- LIVE.

After work fashion fix? Strut over to La Sirena for free, yes FREE, cocktails, bites and of course fashion! Link aqui tambien: FWO La Sirena

Oh yeah, you're welcome.



#fashionweekonline #nyfw #tomford #dominicanblogger

Sunday, August 14, 2016

New, Old You

*Blows dust of blog site* Wow! It's been a while! I've neglected my blog yet again. SMH. My goal is to post at least once a month now, which I am determined to do. #girlboss

Last week, a good friend of mine told me they wanted a makeover but didn't know where to start or what to do. So, being me, I immediately brainstormed some ideas that I've learned throughout the years on how to "makeover your life." These were all very effective for me. Hopefully it helps all you guys & ladies. (My friend loved it!)

Wardrobe makeover in five easy steps (& on a budget): 
Step 1: Clean, organize and edit ruthlessly - your entire casa. Throw out whatever has not been used in more than a few months or whatever doesn’t fit with the new style.
Step 2: Play Favorites. Somethings, we can’t ever let go of (me: sequin jackets I’ve worn maybe twice but thy're just sooo pretty!) and it’s ok to keep them. Just don’t say you can’t get rid of ANYTHING.
Step 3: Identify Must-Haves. These are classic pieces that never go out of style. Doesn’t matter how much they cost- it’s about their longevity and versatility. Check out my post (here) on how to shop for classic pieces that never go out of style. This can also help you identify those classic pieces, already in your wardrobe. 
Step 4: STOP paying Retail! Buy on sale. Always. Stores pay $2 for a scarf and sell it to us for $10. It's called a markup. Stop overpaying for things. Especially if they are trend items. (4 years of fashion school will do things to a woman). 
Step 5: Remember Your Best Looks. Don’t buy everything on trend; buy what works for you. Spend a little more on classics and a lot less on trends. Look at old pics and remember times when you felt your best. Also, remember your body type. We’re women: our bodies go through a lot of chances- embrace it. Dress for the body you currently have- not the one you had or want. Trust me, you'll feel and look better if you choose pieces that work with the current you.

Hair- For quick, and relatively easy, hair makeovers: (1) bangs are an option; (2) dying your hair or perhaps subtle highlights (makes a WORLD of difference); extensions/clip ins; or the good ol' chopping off the locks.

Spiritual- A lot of people set out to change appearances but forget to start their makeover from within. Detox your mind and your plate. If you're an avid takeout eater, try to get healthy options and indulge every so often. Clear your mind of negativity by going for a walk (or doing some sort of physical activity) and/or meditate. Read books. Take a class. Learn to cook something new. Travel (even if to a nearby city/state). People don't realize it but new experiences also enhance your mood and enrich your mind which in turn leads to a better outlook on life.  

Try these out and find what works for you. Love yourself as you are but always strive to be better than the person you were. 


#makeover #2lipsinluv